My previous posts seem to be a cause for concern..

No worries people..
We're doing fine..

I would have to say that no one really knows the problems that a couple faces until they're open about it..
but then again..
most couples prefer to sweep things under the carpet and not hang their dirty linen in public..
I think that that is perfectly fine..
only IF..
they solve their problems..

I was once an escapist..
I never did like the idea of facing problems because I know that the chances of them paving the way to a quarrel are high..
The simplest way it seemed by to keep everything under the sheets..
and it did solve the problem..
for a while...
When the bulge in the sheets become prominent..
Everything will resurface again..
and it's then that there'll be little chance of salvaging..

I still preserve my view of having no quarrels..
because I don't see how quarrelling can solve problems..
Quarrels actually make things worst..
With anger in your head..
Everything comes out wrong..
Amicable discussions can be carried out in place of heated arguments..

Being brought up in a family in which my parents are peaceful people..
Loving.. (yeah.. my dad gets my mum to sit on his lap and kisses her in front of us - only at home)
No vulgarities hurled at each other..
Only arguments heard are those among my siblings.. (no one said that it'd be peaceful with siblings running around..)
I believe that that can be sought within couples..

That..
is the optimum..
the zen status..
and condition that all couples should be working towards..
less the disargeements between siblings would definitely be much better..

To quote Brian..
"just resolve every issue that comes straight away, ensure there's no "broken bits" lying ard each time.."
Do that..
Persevere..
Hang on..
Don't let go..