Today I feel more at ease.. I'm still confused.. bt cos of the letter.. n the chpts of a book tt Junius passed to me..

The title of the book - I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris.. yeah.. it was once upon a time circulated among the teens in church.. I bought one for Michael for his bday abt.. 3 yrs back.. and now.. it's coming back again.. haha.. the wonders of it all.. God works things out.. everything..

In the past 2 mths especially, I've been thinking alot abt the present rlsp.. abt what's happening.. what's going wrong.. what's wrong.. what's right.. now.. I know..

Nth's right.. I've gotta find a rlsp tt's pleasing to God.. in His eyes.. there's this sub-chpt.. The Joy of Intimacy is the Reward of Commitment.. do u think u'll commit to any rlsp tt u're in now? Can u commit fully to it? Even the one tt u THINK will be ur other half might end up NT being ur future partner.. how will u feel then? Betrayed? Torn?
"You might say that intimacy between a man and a woman is the icing on the cake of a relationship headed toward marriage. And if we look at intimacy that way, then it becomes obvious that most of our dating relationships are all icing. They usually lack a purpose or a clear destination. In most cases, especially when we're younger, dating is short term, serving the needs of the moment. We date because we want to enjoy the emotional and physical benefits of intimacy without the responsibility of real commitment." (Joshua Harris. "The Little Relationship Principle" pg 29 in I Kissed Dating Goodbye)

A rlsp tt involves too much physical contact or even the "simple" thought of having sex is wrong.. cos the thoughts are nv simple.. "God wants us to pursue purity and blamelessness in our motives, our minds, and our emotions" (Joshua Harris. "So This Is Love" pg 22 in I Kissed Dating Goodbye)

Then there comes the qns.. what is the greatest need.. what is MY greatest need..

A rlsp tt leads me away frm God isn't right.. isn't beneficial for me.. neither is it for him..

"What is true joy? It's found in God's brand of love - love founded on faitfulness, love rooted in commitment.
The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment."

I shall leave u all with these words...

"True love isn't just expressed in passionately whispered words or an intimate kiss or an embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid." (Joshua Harris. "So This Is Love" pg 20 in I Kissed Dating Goodbye)

Pray.. only then will we know what God has planned..